Self Analysis

Understanding yourself allows you to positively direct your life, find peace, and develop better relationships with others. With the regular practice of self-assessment, you will experience peace of mind and when challenges or conflicts do arise, you will be better equipped to resolve them in a healthy manner. In order to analyze yourself, you need to understand how psychoanalysts view the mind.


The basic idea behind the analytic method is that everything you say and do is motivated by your subconscious; your internal self influences your external behavior. Repression refers to ignoring or avoiding internal conflicts rather than immediately dealing with them. Dispersion, on the other hand, refers to the process of bringing repressed ideas and conflicts to the surface in order to resolve them.


This will probably be the most difficult step. You have worked your whole life to create the person that you want to be and in the process, those thoughts and behaviors that you don’t want to accept have been repressed. Honestly evaluating how you have handled past situations and relationships is the first step to finding peace and balance in your life. Most likely, various events and situations during your lifetime have created conflicts. In some instances, you probably handled the conflicts well and they were resolved productively.


Other battles, however, may have been left unresolved and festering in your subconscious. By spending some time meditating on the problem, you can come to the realization that not only did your mother love you, she also loved you enough to understand that one statement did not change the relationship. As well, you can learn through the process that failing to forgive yourself in no way alleviates the problem and only creates further distress. By making a list of unresolved conflicts, you can handle them individually over time and clear your subconscious.


Are you motivated by anger, guilt, or jealously? Do you fly into an angry rage when you don’t get what you want or feel wronged? Are you constantly worrying about making someone unhappy or do you become obsessed about perceived past wrongs? Do you find relationships difficult because you can’t trust others and regularly find reasons to feel jealous? If any of these emotions are motivating your actions, then they need to be dispersed. Typically, such emotions will prevent you from having peace and balance in your life. Looking at the list of unresolved conflicts, note any emotions that are attached to those conflicts. Creating a specific plan will help you take control of the situation and your emotions.